You are great at what you do! So great, in fact, that you’ve been promoted to manage your former peers (the subject of an upcoming blog post). There’s just one problem: You are overwhelmed because you are doing your old job in addition to managing others. And, you are concerned because, if being truly honest with yourself, you realize that you are the bottleneck and actually getting in the way. Where are those additional hours in the day?! How will you learn the necessary management skills?!
Is your manager a mystery? Are you frustrated because you never seem to make your manager happy? Does it seem as though you and your manager never see things the same way?
Maybe you are fed up with your colleague – he’s so rude! Or maybe you’re tired of dealing with Mr. or Ms. Sensitive. Either way, my bet is that you’re frustrated and wondering not just what’s wrong with your colleague, but what to do about it.
Have you ever thought about chucking your job or career? Is 2018 your year?! I’ve been there – I jumped off the career cliff in 2002 and have been happily following my passion in the form of a career ever since.
Twenty eighteen is all about getting to the next level. It about taking getting and making the most of opportunities, whether it’s a promotion, new job, or other exciting opportunities. The question is, how do you attract the best opportunities for you?
You lead a team. Or do you? You have this unsettling feeling that you could be getting more out of your team, but struggle with how. You tell them you want their input, but you lead staff meetings by doing most of the talking or the talking is merely reporting out, not solving problems. That, and most of the good ideas are yours.
Are you tired of struggling to engage meeting participants? No one talks. Participants (using that term loosely, because of course there isn’t any participation!) look around whenever you ask for input? You are frustrated and tired of being the only one with ideas or even talking.
Are you at your wits’ end trying to deal with staff who don’t get along? The near constant stream of he-said, she-said is not just exhausting but it detracts from your team’s focus on the work. Worse yet, you feel like you’ve got to spend your time being a kindergarten cop. Not fun.
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We all want our needs to be met. Consider this: when we feel stressed, anxious, or annoyed, it’s because of an unmet need, not because of another person who happens to be caught up in the drama And, importantly, analyzing negative feelings in the context of a “met v. unmet needs” paradigm supports you in: Continue Reading